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Giving condolences to the kuffar and attending their funerals

Editors comment:Recently I had a close Non-Muslim Member of my family pass away and like most Reverts I faced the dilemma do I attend the funeral or not? A colleague of mine gave me a small piece of research on this subject so I thought I would translate it for my benefit and the benefit of others who may face the same dilemma

Question:A christian colleague of mine died and he was from those people who had the  best of manners he was trustworthy and truthful.Is it permissible for me to give condonlonces to his family and attend and witness his funeral service even if is in a church?

Answer: The people of knowledge have agreed on the prohibition of giving condolences(to the family) of the kafir who waged war against Islam

As for the kafir who did not wage war against Islam the  majority of the people of knowledge viewed that it was permissible to give condolences(to his relatives) and some of the people of knowledge withheld from giving a view and some viewed that it was not permissible or they allowed it if there was a benefit or if you hoped that they the kuffar would become Muslims.

What is correct is what the majority of the scholars have said that it is absolutely permissible and that this is from birr(righteousness) that we are not prohibited from doing, Allah the most high said”Allâh does not forbid you to deal justly and kindly with those who fought not against you on account of religion and did not drive you out of your homes. Verily, Allâh loves those who deal with equity. (Al-Mumtahinah 60:8) and this is similar to visiting them when they are sick.It has been authentically narrated from the prophet salla Alla alaihi wasalam that he visited a sick kafir and called him to Islam.

What should be said when you condole them?

An Important point should be observed when offering condolences it is not permissible to supplicate for him for forgiveness or invoke mercy on him or ask for paradise for him which should only be asked for a Muslim who was upon tawheed.Even if the dead Kafir had good manners and was trustworthy it is not permissible to make supplications with the likes of what has been mentioned.Aisha (May Allah be pleased with her) said in sahih Muslim”oh messenger of Allah Ibn Judaan in Jahiliyah  used too keep good relations and feed the poor will any of that benefit him?He(Salla Allaah alahi wasalam) said “that will not benefit him he did not say for even one day Oh my rabb forgive me my sins on the day of judgment.

As  for attending the Funeral of the kafir this is not fitting except if the dead is a close relative like a  father or mother or a brother or the likes as the prophet ordered ali to bury his father

The prophet did not take part in the funeral himself but delegated Ali to do that

And it is not known from any of the Sahaba or salaf that they attended the funeral of the kuffar except a close relative especially if there is was some clear benefit in doing that.There is no clear evidence preventing this whether the dead is a close or distant relative

Attending the church service

If  is not permissible to take part in the religious ceremonies that are involved in their funerals, and because of this it is not permissible to take part in funeral services that are performed in a church this is because even if you dont do what they do or say what they say just by your presence in this situation without reprimanding them  is a type of silent approval and agreeing with them.Allaah the most high said: And it has already been revealed to you in the Book (this Qur’ân) that when you hear the Verses of Allâh being denied and mocked at, then sit not with them, until they engage in a talk other than that; (but if you stayed with them) certainly in that case you would be like them. Surely, Allâh will collect the hypocrites and disbelievers all together in Hell, (An-Nisa 4:140)

Sheikh fahd baahamam

Translated by jafar

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